What a relief. I am up here in Michelle’s parents house in Nob Hill writing this blog entry on my laptop while Michelle helps her mom do some last minute food shopping.
Meeting her parents went great. Michelle’s Dad is in finance, so I was able to talk to him about banking for a while and that was a great ice breaker. I definitely gave him the impression that I’m not an idiot.
Michelle’s mom teaches art history at SF State so we didn’t have as much to talk about right off the bat (I am ignorant of all things related to art). But we did find some common ground talking about food. I asked what we were having tomorrow and I told her what my mom usually makes. We talked about food and families. She was surprised that my parents are still married. I guess it’s unusual for a couple like me and Michelle to have both sets of parents never divorced. I could tell she felt that I came from “a good family” because of that fact.
Tonight, Michelle and I are going out with some of her old friends from high school. Then tomorrow her brother and sister show up and it’s turkey and stuffing. I feel much better now knowing that the pressure is off!
I’m off tomorrow to San Francisco to meet Michelle’s family. Thanksgiving dinner will include her mom and dad, younger sister Quinn, and younger brother Greg.
I have to say I am more than a little nervous. I mean, yes, I have acquired mad skills talking to strangers for the last 18 months. But these people aren’t strangers. Plus, I need this to go well. Talking to strangers is a success whether I make a new friend or some douche in an Audi tells me to fuck off. I can’t lead with, “So how do you know Michelle?”!
I’m not saying that I am only capable of superficial conversations. But meeting strangers by its very nature starts out at a superficial level. As you progress, you dig deeper. Most of the time, I don’t get that far. It’s a lot of ice breakers and cocktail conversations. Few of my encounters have turned into lasting relationships.
On the other hand, some of them have. I guess I just want to make a good impression because I know Michelle is close with her family and values their opinion. It could be an insurmountable obstacle if I screw this up. And I can’t let that happen because I can’t imagine losing her.